Don’t Read Unless You Actually Want to Change: How To Create Goals That You Will Actually Reach!

Don’t read this if you are looking for another excuse.


I’m serious. Only continue reading if you are actually ready to make a change.


Alright, it looks like you’re ready to learn the 7 secrets of successful goals:


Congratulations! You have taken the first step to reach your goals! Achieving your goals is hard work, but I know you can do it. But you have to believe it too and be ready to put in the hard work. Below are the strategies that will help you reach your goals…

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Focus on One Goal at a Time:


I don’t know about you, but I often have a laundry list of things I want to do in a day. With balancing being Super Mom, managing a house or career and having a personal life there is no way to do everything.

But take a deep breath and read this sentence aloud…


“It’s okay! I don’t need to do everything at one time.”


It is so much better to choose ONE goal at a time versus trying to change everything at once. Once you dominate that goal, then you can move to the next. One completed goal is far greater than a handful of failed ones.


Set Yourself Up for Success:


Achieving goals is addicting, and not reaching goals can be utterly crushing.


“How can I feel better by achieving my goals?”


I’m so glad you asked. If you set attainable goals, you are setting yourself up for success.


Let’s get realistic. Going from zero exercise to exercising 90 minutes every day will probably destroy you and any momentum you gain. Instead, start small; try exercising 2 times a week for 10 minutes for 1 month. After you attain that goal, (which you will) bump it up to 3 times for 15 minutes for 1 more month.


Keep it Simple and Specific:

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We can only experience the joy of reaching our goals if there is a way to know that we reached it. We need a way to measure our success.


For example, deciding to generally “eat healthy” is going to be confusing and frustrating. What does “eat healthy” even mean? That is extremely subjective. You want to set yourself up for success, not for a debate with yourself about how your oatmeal cookie qualifies as healthy.


Instead, choose a measurable goal: eat a serving of vegetables with every meal, only eat two servings of dessert every week or eat 75 grams of protein every day.


The Sum is Greater Than the Parts:


Would you rather have a celebration every month or just once a year?


I don’t know about you, but I would much rather celebrate success every month!


Instead of having one really long term goal, it is much more motivating to have multiple mini goals along the way. Not only do you get to celebrate more, but the success is addicting, and each mini goal success will propel you to achieve the next!


For example, instead of having a sole goal of running a half marathon in one year, set mini progress goals as well. While being able to run 13.1 miles may seem overwhelming, being able to run 1 more mile than last month seems very achievable.


Take Control of Your Goals:

As much as we would like to think we are, we are not in control of everything.


Therefore, when we create a goal, we need to make sure that it is based on the things that we are actually in control of.


For example, weight loss is weird. If you chart your weight over a long period of time, it will look much more like a zig-zag than a straight line. Depending on your water intake, bowel movements, muscle gain and other unknown factors, we can’t fully control the number on the scale.


Instead, think about what you can control. For example, you can control the number of calories you consume each day. There are many free resources, including my favorite phone app, “My Fitness Pal,” that will allow you to record your calories.


If you are diligent with your calories, your weight will come off in it’s own zig-zag like fashion.


Be Accountable:

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It is much easier to stand strong and pursue your goals when you have accountability.


For example, if you are trying to lose weight, let your family and friends know. That way, instead of asking you to go get a donut with you, they can ask if you want to go for a walk. Or, if you are trying to quit smoking, ask your friends to not offer you a cigarette. There is no reason to surround yourself extra temptation.


Another way to propel your success is to keep track of the days that you met your goal. When I was counting calories, I actually had a sign on the wall with tally marks for every day I met my goal. I felt so much pride adding my tally mark each night.


What is your motivation:

Finally, if you are not motivated, you are probably not going to succeed. Determine why you are doing your goal, and remind yourself when it gets hard.


For example, I want to be a fit mom because when I am in shape I feel better and more confident.  I don’t want my fitness level to prevent me from doing anything with my kids or husband. I want to take care of the body that I was given.


What motivates you?


The 7 Keys to Dominating Your Goal:

  • Choose ONE goal to pursue at a time.
  • Set attainable goals that you can actually meet.
  • Pursue specific, measurable goals instead of vague ones.
  • Celebrate mini-goals while attaining your long-term goal.
  • Focus only on what you are in control of.
  • Don’t achieve your goals alone; find accountability.
  • Remember why you set your goal to stay motivated when it is hard.


Share your motivation or goal with the Fit Mom Life community by commenting below! We want to support you while you reach your goals!